I worked in a psychology books to read such a very interesting case analysis: a Americapsychologists to a guest at the home of China, owner of two year old baby in the living roomrunning, accidentally tripping over chairs, burst into tears. When the mother rushed over to pick up the child, and then hit the side of the chair by hand said: "baby don't cry, mother play the broken chair, mother play the broken chair." Psychologists see things can not help some suspicious, and after a while, she told the mother said: "never mind with the chair, he (the child) himself accidentally tripped over his own chair, is causing the result not chair is wrong, you should let him know, if that is what he had done wrong things the responsibility, should be made by his own fault.So after he grows up he will slowly understand in his relationship with the occurrence of this world,what is his responsibility."
Read here, do not know if you have what feeling, anyway, I feel not very good! Why? Not the responsibility of the chair said is right, because it is not possible to see the children run to like us who dodge. However, children have a responsibility? I think the children never responsibility, we can learn that the child was two years old from above, how can a two-year-old child he knew there were chairs will flash? He only know how to "play"! Play is the child's nature! We cannot becausethe child's fun and convicted of his sin. Apparently he is not responsible!
So who should be responsible? I think it should be parents! Although parents can not change the child and playful nature, but at least he can do three things, I personally think that these three points if the parents do, I dare say the impact on child's development is great!
The first point: in the range of children play in trying to make that harm or not conducive to children's articles out of the child! (but this does not go on for long, children always want to grow up, but also to be independent.)
Second: after the fall in child education he: "the child, when each step you take, you shouldconsider you go to this step, what will be the result."
The third point: to encourage himself up, from where fall from where climb up.
The three influence on children is great! First, it will make your child know they are not alone,because someone is silently love yourself! The child influence character by environment in this environment will make the children learn to love everyone around him. Also not in the parents old,because the cause or other reasons and solitary fell parents!
Second it will make your child more cautious walk every step of life, make him a cautious man! This is a great help in his life and career.
Third it will make your child will not be setbacks beat and out, on the contrary it will make your childwhere failure where to climb up, and overcome all difficulties. Instead of doing a will escape difficult people, but to make him a man of courage to overcome difficulties!
I believe that if parents do these three points, the child will fall? Will fear the fall? I think even if the child fell, he will not cry, but will smile, will with an innocent smile, and their own stood up anddusted himself lime, continue to move forward!
Parents! Try to do it, the benefits of so many, what is there against it?
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